My Personal Growth Journey

What we regret most in life is not the things we do but the things we didn’t do!

The first time I heard about “personal growth,” I thought I didn’t need it. Has it ever happened to you that you have so many ideas in your mind you start a project and leave it halfway, and you start another, and the same thing happens? That was me!! So, without a doubt, I needed to grow personally to identify my fears, fears of rejection, criticism, and seeking external approval.

One of the biggest ghosts I had to face was the fact that my father abandoned me when my mom got pregnant. You can already imagine the emotional weight of guilt and resentment, as well as the feeling of unworthiness that I grew up with. Anyway, this year, I was able to give him a call and finally wish him a Happy Father’s Day for the first time! I’m happy to say that although it was the first time, I believe it won’t be the last!

In 2016, six days after I graduated from college, a drastic change happened: I moved to a new country, new culture, new language, new family. I was only 25 years old. I had no idea that my beliefs influenced my thoughts, which impacted my feelings and led to my actions to produce results in the external world.

It has been six years, and little by little, I have learned that with every change comes opportunities, as well as many challenges. I’ve learned that change is difficult, and so is staying in the same place, so if both are difficult, I prefer the risk of change and growth. Here are some benefits that I have discovered during my journey.

Three main benefits of personal growth

These are the three main benefits from my point of view. However, I must say that before beginning such a journey, it is necessary to have an ounce of patience and a pound of humility. As Dr. Jung would say, the encounter with oneself is one of the most terrifying things in life.

* Create a new consciousness

There is always room for improvement, but we cannot improve something that we are not aware of. To create a new consciousness, it is essential to inventory our limiting beliefs. I want to say that from here, the next step is to think positively, and that’s it, but the truth is that it is not that simple, especially if we are just starting.

What you can do is sort them by categories: relationships with your parents and family, relationships with your friends, relationships with money, etc. Decide on which category you want to approach first and get started. We can’t go from zero to 100 overnight. Any good red wine needs time to age!

* Development of self-esteem

Knowing yourself, identifying your abilities and skills, and what makes you different and unique contributes to the feeling of “worthiness.” You finally find the courage to say what you think and feel without fear of being rejected or ridiculed. Without actually taking things personally. Bonus tip: when you know and accept your flaws, no one can hold them against you because you already know them!

At the end of the day, we’re all going at a different pace, and that’s okay. As I told a client today, “The goals are yours; therefore, only you can take the necessary actions. Best of all, the fruits will be yours to share with whomever you wish.”

* Increase in clarity

If you want strawberry wine, you won’t get it by fermenting grape juice!

To get to a place, we need the exact address. Otherwise, we will not reach the destination. Being clear about where we are going is understanding that, even if path A or B does not work, there are other paths available that will take you to the destination. Even if the plan changes, the destination will not change!

The arrow cannot hit two points at the same time!